Analyzing R. Kelly Interview with Gayle King on CBS News

R. Kelly finally breaks his silence following his arrest on sexual abuse charges in an interview with CBS This Morning co-host, Gayle King. Parts of the 80-minute interview have aired and people are choosing sides. Everyone wants to know, “Did R. Kelly Do It?”

R. Kelly is being charged with 10 counts of aggravated sexual abuse relating to misconduct with four women, three of whom were underage at the time of their alleged assaults. In January 2019, Lifetime premiered Surviving R. Kelly, a six-part docuseries that detailed the allegations against Kelly. It featured accounts from multiple women who say they escaped Kelly’s “cult” and interviews with some of the women’s parents. Amongst interviews are Jocelyn Savage and Azriel Clary’s parents. Who believe Kelly is holding their daughters against their will or have brainwashed them. Again, Robert Kelly has denied everything.

Below, we have analyzed some red flags and potential behavioral patterns of batterers that stood out during this interview.

RED FLAG #1: R. Kelly says, “Rescue someone that doesn’t need rescuing cause they’re not in my house.” However, a video soon to follow shows him confessing to his relationships with 23-year-old Jocelyn Savage and 21-year-old Azriel Clary. According to their parents, the two young women need to be rescued. The question is, are they in the house or not? If they are in the house willingly, why won’t they talk to their parents?

RED FLAG #2: He’s stated that he doesn’t know what a cult is, which is problematic. If he doesn’t know what a cult is, how can he be sure that he doesn’t have one?

RED FLAG #3: When speaking on the docuseries, Surviving R. Kelly, Kelly says, “Everyone said something bad about me. Nobody said nothing good. They were describing Lucifer.” It is true that the women addressed R. Kelly and Robert as two different people. Most of the women said great things about R. Kelly, and described Robert as Lucifer in the sense that he’s a charismatic charmer that sings his way into people’s hearts. Before delving into Robert’s sexual behaviors, they spoke A LOT about R. Kelly being a sweet and caring man who would give the world to the people around him, but when Robert takes over, it’s scary.

RED FLAG #4: When R. Kelly starts crying, I can’t say that I don’t think he’s hurting. However, I do believe that his tears stem from a different source of pain. Think for a second. Have you ever witnessed a man cry when he realizes something in his life is being taken from him? Most times, men don’t cry because they feel bad. They cry because they’ve been caught or don’t know how to fix the problem. He feels like shit because he is now realizing everything he did in the past and the present is catching up with him. He can’t find an escape route. This is my perception of R. Kelly’s pain.

EXAMPLE: Society for the most part, doesn’t accept underage dating and it’s illegal. In some states, parents can sign their children over to a spouse from the age of sixteen. Also, there are men in certain neighborhoods that prey on younger, more vulnerable women. It makes them seem more manly to have young women chasing after them. If R. Kelly surrounds himself by a crowd of people that encourage his actions, why would he change? At that point, neither the law nor outside opinions matter to him. Who is going to finally stand up and tell R. Kelly, “No”? What consequences will he face? Consider this as you listen to his outbursts.

He uses the words, “ABDUCTED, RAPED, and CHAINED” when describing women that really need help. Again, the women that are in his alleged “cult” are technically not being held against their will, but if the allegations are correct, he has psychologically brainwashed them. They may not be in physical bondage, but they’re definitely in bondage.

RED FLAG #5: I believe that R. Kelly truly thinks his behaviors, minor or extreme, are unproblematic. It’s actually pretty scary to watch/hear because R. Kelly is far from the first who hasn’t comprehended their wrongdoing, nor will he be the last.

He even speaks about arresting himself if his daughters were said to be enduring the same abuse that he’s allegedly guilty of. WHAT??? I can’t! Help him PLEASE!!!

RED FLAG #6: R. Kelly says, “How come it was okay for me to see them until they wasn’t getting no money from me…What kind of a father, what kind of mother would sell their daughter to a man?”

He still doesn’t fully understand what he’s saying. He literally admitted to buying two young women from their parents. If he did purchase these young women, keep in mind that Azriel Clary was 17-year-old when they met. Clary is now 21-years-old and according to Kelly, the two are now in a romantic relationship. If that’s the case, is he expecting people to believe that he waited until she was 18-years-old to legally engage in sexual intercourse with her? If there was no sexual intercourse between the two, was romance a NO altogether? This whole damn scenario is messed up. R. Kelly should not be dating or interested in anyone younger than 21-years-old. He needs help ASAP.

“An emotionally abusive partner will systematically and intentionally try to separate the victim from their external network of support: friends, family, co-workers, clergy. This is designed to make the victim solely dependent upon the abuser and to decrease the likelihood that others will witness the abuse. The more a victim is isolated, the harder it is for them to be connected to the resources they need to escape the relationship.” ― Ferentz HUFFPOST

Recognizing the Signs: I’m not sure if anyone else picked up on this, but R. Kelly shows many signs that are common of an abuser.

Sign 1: He talked over King every time she spoke. This shows that he is used to controlling a conversation. Also, he stood up and started yelling, which is a sign of a verbal and emotional abusers. They use their dominance to show people that they’re in charge.

Sign 2: He wouldn’t take responsibility for any of his actions.

“It’s extremely rare for an emotionally abusive partner to take responsibility for his or her behavior. Their tactic is to project responsibility or fault onto their partner. They will deceptively twist reality, distort the truth or outright lie to make the case that their partner is to blame. The subject matter becomes irrelevant as the emotionally abusive partner sidesteps responsibility at all cost.” ― Carol A. Lambert, psychotherapist and author of Women With Controlling Partners HUFFPOST

I’m sure there are other things that I didn’t catch. If you can identify any other signs or red flags that you’re willing to discuss, comment below!

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Jordyn Woods Joins The Red Table Talk To Tell Her Story!!!

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Jordyn Woods shares her story with Jada Pinkett Smith on The Red Table Talk.
Last week, a story broke out that Jordyn Woods and Khloe Kardashian’s boyfriend Tristan Thompson allegedly had an affair. Woods has denied all allegations, because of this she has been called a liar by the Kardashian family and the public, along with receiving threatening messages to her and her family. With so much confusion revolving around the story Woods tries to tell her story. Jada Pinkett Smith has known Jordyn Woods her whole life and has been close with the Kardashian family for sometime. Jada voices that all three families have been impacted by this, but it’s important for Jordyn to let the world know the truth.

After listening to the entire video I have to say I believe Jordyn. Not saying that I can’t be wrong but everything she says seems like something that could happen to anyone. She doesn’t make up some elaborate story to convince us. It is actually the most basic story. Nothing to question or consider.

We all can agree and Jordyn says it many times that she shouldn’t have allowed herself to follow the other ladies to his house. It was inappropriate and she acknowledges that many times.

I do want to explore the comments on her being drunk, as all these blogs feel the need to pick at her for mentioning the alcohol. Let’s be clear, alcohol surfaces a lot of built up energy or feelings that one may have. People are making it seem like she is making an excuse. That isn’t an excuse it’s the truth. She describes her sitting next to Tristan and how their feet touched. Which again is completely inappropriate. This is the only thing that raises a red flag for me. It seems like Jordyn may have had a connection with Tristan before this event. Not something that would cause cheating but a feeling that possibly lingered in the air when their in the room together. Something that neither one of them really acknowledged or possibly just ignored.

Jada Pinkett Smith says it many times that everyone has been in a situation like this or similar. I’m not saying that the Kardashians should forgive her. I’m just saying these kinds of things are more common than not. It doesn’t matter who you are. We just learn from them and move the hell on.

Also when someone tells their story it doesn’t always have to be that they are looking for attention. Sometimes people make mistakes and want to make it known that they made a mistake. It is possible someone can be genuine. Again I don’t know whether Jordyn Woods is lying or not but I won’t dismiss her apology just because people feel she wants attention. If that’s the case no one would come out and say anything they’ve done or been through because unfortunately the world we live in people love scandals that will bring them attention.

For the trollers…with all of the cases of people committing suicide because of bullying its also inappropriate to send someone messages stating things like “That’s why your father deserved to die” and “I hope you die.” This is disgusting and no one should ever speak to someone like that especially not because of an alleged affair. Let’s be frank the Kardashians don’t know half of you who are “defending” them. You aren’t getting your bills paid and you’re not going to become their best friends. You’re just fueling an issue that, when you go home at night, has nothing to do with your real life. Grow Up! These people are hurting and don’t need your petty and childish insults.

Jay -Z ‘New York Times’ Interview

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Rapper/Entrepreneur Jay-Z gets interviewed by Dean Baquet from The New York Times. Jay talks about the reality, we all try to avoid. He speaks honesty and the true that many people need to take in. Touches on how he has learned about himself and becoming a better person. He mentions a lot about his ‘obligation’ to this community. I have always enjoyed listening to Jay-Z music, but the way he speaks brings me happiness. I pray that people listen to this interview and actually leave with something valuable. Below is the full interview.

 

NEW MUSIC: BIG SEAN – NO MORE INTERVIEWS


Big Sean released a song yesterday called, “No More Interviews” that had the Internet going wild. In the song big Sean addresses all the rumors that’s going around on social media. He also goes into saying that individuals that read these sites, take what they say to be a fact without fact checking. He addressed multiple situations that his name is been brought up in. One of which was his supposed rival with, rapper Kid Cudi. What I got from what he said is that they never really had a problem but if they did it would have been because of miscommunication. He also points out that with a simple conversation whatever that disagreement was could be fixed.  
The conclusion of No More Interviews is that he’s no longer going to do interviews that asked him about his personal life. He wants all interviews to be strictly about music or any business venture that he may be apart of. I had to say I respect that, because a lot of times now interviewing don’t ask questions that they need to be asking. They’ll ask one or two questions about the music and then the rest are about the personal life or scandals or whatever may go to media. I do watch interview sometimes and think that if I was the person sitting there I would get up and walk out. Although I understand that sometimes you have to ask certain questions that are boiling up and people want to know but sometimes these outlets go to far. At the end of the day these artist, entertainers,actors and actresses are human, and they still have feelings.
I’m happy that he took the route he did to address some of the things that bothered him.
I remember when he came out with I don’t fuck with you, I was really disappointed because I didn’t expect him to address the situation in that way. Although I don’t know him, I have watched a lot of his interviews. When I saw this song yesterday, I was releaved because this is how I wanted him to address situations. 

Take a listen to the song, and tell me what you think. 
https://soundcloud.com/bigsean-1/no-more-interviews-1

OnPointCelebz Interviews Singer Tia Ferrera

OPC: What made you want to pursue a career in the music industry?

T: Wow! I grew up around music. My mom is a professional singer and most of my family members are in the music industry. From being very little I’ve always been around music. I fell in love with it at a very young age.(Laughing) I feel like there was no other way for me to go.

OPC: How long have you been singing? When did you discover you had the ability to sing?

T: I started off singing at my grandfathers church. He has a very very small church in San Diego California where I was born. Started singing there once he gave me my solo I was like oh yeah (Laughing). This is me, this is what I want to do. I don’t want to do anything else in life. I knew pretty early that, that was from watching music videos and all the people I admired, I knew very very early that it was something I wanted to do.

OPC: Who is your #1 inspiration?

T: Mariah Carey

OPC: Who would you love to work with in the industry?

T: Timbaland or Ryan Leslie

OPC: From what you’ve seen or heard, what makes a professional artist? An ideal superstar?

T: Someone who is very well rounded as far as their gift. Whether they have [tackled] the technical side as well as just being free enough to express themselves. There are people that have master both of those as well as being able to network and run a great business. It seems to me that those are the most successful in the entertainment industry. Their able to balance all of those different areas of their lives and stay on top even though its a lot. Its a lot to try and balance but from what I see the people that are very successful are able to balance all of that.

OPC: What has been your favorite part of your Journey so far?

T: I have to be really honest other people wouldn’t say they do it for the feed back [but that’s why I do it. I love when someone can relate to my music]. Its just a song in my head until I go in the studio and record it and its just a song until I preform it and its just a song until someone hears it. But if it actually means something to somebody else that the whole reason i do it.

OPC: What song have you gotten the most feed back on?

T: Its weird because for women its this song that I have called ‘Its Complicated’ and its specifically about how a relationship goes wrong and your like what the heck happen we were doing so well. And I got that from all the people on Facebook land that had a status that said its complicated. I started seeing peoples comments saying what does that mean. And not everyone wants to admit it but everyone has been in that part of their relationship where their like I don’t know if were still together or whats happening so I wrote a song about that. From women I get the most feedback about that. And then I have another song that we shot the video for and its called ‘Ladies Night’. For a very strange reason a lot of guys (laughing) like that song. Their like I know I’m not supposed to dance to I know its a song for women but I like that song. Its very opposite ends of the spectrum but I love it.

OPC: Do you have a special zone you get in when your writing?

T: I do have a special zone. It depends on what kind of song it is but I specifically try to take myself to a place that I’ve experienced. When writing a song or singing a song, what ever the subjects about I try to take myself to that place. So if its one of those sad songs I literally take myself to that bad, dark, not so good place. [I start] from there to make the emotion come out.

OPC: What do you want your legacy to be?

T: I hope that when its all send and done. When I’m old and grey and can’t do this anymore. I hope that what people just got from me is that I wasn’t afraid to go against the green and follow the dream that I’ve had since I was little. No matter what it cost me or what obstacles I’ve met. That’s what I stand for.

OnPointCelebz Interviews Basketball Wife Jackie Christie

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Jackie Christie is a sweetheart I enjoyed communicating with her and I wish her all the best in life.

OPC: When did you first discover you wanted to be associated with the entertainment industry? What about the industry drew you the most?

JC: From being a model to loving Fashion. I’ve done a lot of plays growing up, and could always entertain the crowd. I knew entertainment was in my blood and I would always be involved in it somehow. Now with being on TV so much as well as producing TV shows and Films. I’m enjoying it that much more.

OPC: I read about your signature runway walk that made you popular as a model, Can you explain that to us a little more?

JC: Yes, I started modeling at a very young age. I was not as tall as most runway models my age but I could walk like no other and still can 🙂 just put me on the catwalk and its like riding a bike you just never forget! So as i began doing more and more shows. I started getting standing ovations whenever i walked in a show and more and more request to open or close a show. It went on for my entire career in modeling.

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OPC: How did you get involved with starting, Jean Rah Fya records your record company?

JC: Our Daughter is a recording artist and she has a passion for music so we decided to open our label with her being one of our first artist we signed, Then we were introduced to Bobby Tinsley our R&B /gospel/Producer/writer artist, through a good friend and we signed him on the spot! and the rest is history!:-)

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OPC: When did you first meet your husband? And did you ever image your life playing out the way it has?

JC: Doug and i met at a place in Seattle in 1991/92 called Jersey’s it was a sports bar/restaurant with dancing food and pool tables. It was a meeting through a mutual friend who introduced us, Doug’s smile won me over fairly quickly:-) not to mention he smelled so good like vanilla and honey! 🙂

OPC: How did it feel to have your production company; Infinite Love, co-produced the reality show about you and your husband’s love for one another called The Christie’s Committed?

JC: WOW we really enjoyed doing “Committed the Christie’s” in 2006/07 BETJ when no one from the sports world really was doing that type of show. We wanted to share that part of who we were and our life with the world, there was so much speculation and media around us and our marriage we felt compelled to let the viewers in to see for themselves. We had a ton of great responses and support BET was awesome as well:-)

OPC: What is something you would like people to know about you? And why is this fact important to you?

JC: I would like people to know that what you see is what you get. With me there is no pretending or hiding behind myself. I believe everyone should live as organically as they can and i really do love people from every walk of life. I do not judge, I wish I could give every human being on earth a big hug sometimes and just make them smile.

OPC: What are two of the most important tips couples should follow to keep their relationship solid?

JC: Respect, and communication, you have to have both for the relationship to flourish because no one is a mind reader and if your partner doesn’t know what you need or what’s on your mind they can’t fix it or give you what your want and visa versa. With respect that entails always putting your partner and their feeling before yourself and the same goes for them and therefore each of you are happy and fulfilled as well as you know your mate has your back!

OPC: How do you feel when you begin to write? And how and where do you write?

JC: I feel really at peace with myself and our life. The state of mind I’m in when I begin to write is always very serene in a sense like i feel very in tune with nature and I’m extremely sensitive to everything around me, it’s very beautiful really.

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OPC: What is your favorite genre of writing? And why?

JC: I love writing relationship books or self help books they are beautiful in the sense that I can really help other people with them. Now I’m getting into writing fiction and non fiction romantic novels and sexy adult books. I grew up reading harlequin romance novels and the like and nothing beats sitting down in front of the fireplace snuggled up warm reading a sexy book!

OPC: When you have free time, what do you like to do?

JC: I love to go to the Zoo. I love watching the animals with a passion and i also love to travel. I really enjoy good food and the occasional glass of a fine wine and cheese along with some grapes some R Kelly or Tyrese Christian Keyes or Joe, to name a few there’s so many greats playing on the radio is good too! and I LOVE to roller skate go to movies snuggle in bed all day… and Take long baths with lavender candles and bubbles…

OPC: Do you have anything in the works that your fans should look out for?

JC: Yes, My husband Doug and I along with Christian Keyes (actor/writer Recording artist extraordinaire) is producing our new TV show titled CALI BOYS! as well as CALI GIRLS, its a franchise we are extremely honored and excited to bring our vision to Television world wide.

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OPC: What advice would you give to anyone who is starting out in the industry?

JC: To be ready to put long hours and hard work into this career also never take no for an answer and sharpen your skills daily. I would tell them you must always stay ready as you never know when your name will be called.

OPC: What do you want your legacy to be?

JC: To first make sure my kids are proud of their mother and my husband proud of his wife. I want the world to be a little bit better because I lived in it and made a difference in whatever way I could. I want everyone to know I was a god fearing Jesus loving women that held her spirituality in the highest regards that I knew and will always know that all glory be to god. Lastly i want my legacy to be for all to know that I lived my life according to my rules here on earth and i never wronged no one intentionally or otherwise and that i forgave my enemies seconds after they wronged me.