Analyzing R. Kelly Interview with Gayle King on CBS News

R. Kelly finally breaks his silence following his arrest on sexual abuse charges in an interview with CBS This Morning co-host, Gayle King. Parts of the 80-minute interview have aired and people are choosing sides. Everyone wants to know, “Did R. Kelly Do It?”

R. Kelly is being charged with 10 counts of aggravated sexual abuse relating to misconduct with four women, three of whom were underage at the time of their alleged assaults. In January 2019, Lifetime premiered Surviving R. Kelly, a six-part docuseries that detailed the allegations against Kelly. It featured accounts from multiple women who say they escaped Kelly’s “cult” and interviews with some of the women’s parents. Amongst interviews are Jocelyn Savage and Azriel Clary’s parents. Who believe Kelly is holding their daughters against their will or have brainwashed them. Again, Robert Kelly has denied everything.

Below, we have analyzed some red flags and potential behavioral patterns of batterers that stood out during this interview.

RED FLAG #1: R. Kelly says, “Rescue someone that doesn’t need rescuing cause they’re not in my house.” However, a video soon to follow shows him confessing to his relationships with 23-year-old Jocelyn Savage and 21-year-old Azriel Clary. According to their parents, the two young women need to be rescued. The question is, are they in the house or not? If they are in the house willingly, why won’t they talk to their parents?

RED FLAG #2: He’s stated that he doesn’t know what a cult is, which is problematic. If he doesn’t know what a cult is, how can he be sure that he doesn’t have one?

RED FLAG #3: When speaking on the docuseries, Surviving R. Kelly, Kelly says, “Everyone said something bad about me. Nobody said nothing good. They were describing Lucifer.” It is true that the women addressed R. Kelly and Robert as two different people. Most of the women said great things about R. Kelly, and described Robert as Lucifer in the sense that he’s a charismatic charmer that sings his way into people’s hearts. Before delving into Robert’s sexual behaviors, they spoke A LOT about R. Kelly being a sweet and caring man who would give the world to the people around him, but when Robert takes over, it’s scary.

RED FLAG #4: When R. Kelly starts crying, I can’t say that I don’t think he’s hurting. However, I do believe that his tears stem from a different source of pain. Think for a second. Have you ever witnessed a man cry when he realizes something in his life is being taken from him? Most times, men don’t cry because they feel bad. They cry because they’ve been caught or don’t know how to fix the problem. He feels like shit because he is now realizing everything he did in the past and the present is catching up with him. He can’t find an escape route. This is my perception of R. Kelly’s pain.

EXAMPLE: Society for the most part, doesn’t accept underage dating and it’s illegal. In some states, parents can sign their children over to a spouse from the age of sixteen. Also, there are men in certain neighborhoods that prey on younger, more vulnerable women. It makes them seem more manly to have young women chasing after them. If R. Kelly surrounds himself by a crowd of people that encourage his actions, why would he change? At that point, neither the law nor outside opinions matter to him. Who is going to finally stand up and tell R. Kelly, “No”? What consequences will he face? Consider this as you listen to his outbursts.

He uses the words, “ABDUCTED, RAPED, and CHAINED” when describing women that really need help. Again, the women that are in his alleged “cult” are technically not being held against their will, but if the allegations are correct, he has psychologically brainwashed them. They may not be in physical bondage, but they’re definitely in bondage.

RED FLAG #5: I believe that R. Kelly truly thinks his behaviors, minor or extreme, are unproblematic. It’s actually pretty scary to watch/hear because R. Kelly is far from the first who hasn’t comprehended their wrongdoing, nor will he be the last.

He even speaks about arresting himself if his daughters were said to be enduring the same abuse that he’s allegedly guilty of. WHAT??? I can’t! Help him PLEASE!!!

RED FLAG #6: R. Kelly says, “How come it was okay for me to see them until they wasn’t getting no money from me…What kind of a father, what kind of mother would sell their daughter to a man?”

He still doesn’t fully understand what he’s saying. He literally admitted to buying two young women from their parents. If he did purchase these young women, keep in mind that Azriel Clary was 17-year-old when they met. Clary is now 21-years-old and according to Kelly, the two are now in a romantic relationship. If that’s the case, is he expecting people to believe that he waited until she was 18-years-old to legally engage in sexual intercourse with her? If there was no sexual intercourse between the two, was romance a NO altogether? This whole damn scenario is messed up. R. Kelly should not be dating or interested in anyone younger than 21-years-old. He needs help ASAP.

“An emotionally abusive partner will systematically and intentionally try to separate the victim from their external network of support: friends, family, co-workers, clergy. This is designed to make the victim solely dependent upon the abuser and to decrease the likelihood that others will witness the abuse. The more a victim is isolated, the harder it is for them to be connected to the resources they need to escape the relationship.” ― Ferentz HUFFPOST

Recognizing the Signs: I’m not sure if anyone else picked up on this, but R. Kelly shows many signs that are common of an abuser.

Sign 1: He talked over King every time she spoke. This shows that he is used to controlling a conversation. Also, he stood up and started yelling, which is a sign of a verbal and emotional abusers. They use their dominance to show people that they’re in charge.

Sign 2: He wouldn’t take responsibility for any of his actions.

“It’s extremely rare for an emotionally abusive partner to take responsibility for his or her behavior. Their tactic is to project responsibility or fault onto their partner. They will deceptively twist reality, distort the truth or outright lie to make the case that their partner is to blame. The subject matter becomes irrelevant as the emotionally abusive partner sidesteps responsibility at all cost.” ― Carol A. Lambert, psychotherapist and author of Women With Controlling Partners HUFFPOST

I’m sure there are other things that I didn’t catch. If you can identify any other signs or red flags that you’re willing to discuss, comment below!

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Jordyn Woods Joins The Red Table Talk To Tell Her Story!!!

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Jordyn Woods shares her story with Jada Pinkett Smith on The Red Table Talk.
Last week, a story broke out that Jordyn Woods and Khloe Kardashian’s boyfriend Tristan Thompson allegedly had an affair. Woods has denied all allegations, because of this she has been called a liar by the Kardashian family and the public, along with receiving threatening messages to her and her family. With so much confusion revolving around the story Woods tries to tell her story. Jada Pinkett Smith has known Jordyn Woods her whole life and has been close with the Kardashian family for sometime. Jada voices that all three families have been impacted by this, but it’s important for Jordyn to let the world know the truth.

After listening to the entire video I have to say I believe Jordyn. Not saying that I can’t be wrong but everything she says seems like something that could happen to anyone. She doesn’t make up some elaborate story to convince us. It is actually the most basic story. Nothing to question or consider.

We all can agree and Jordyn says it many times that she shouldn’t have allowed herself to follow the other ladies to his house. It was inappropriate and she acknowledges that many times.

I do want to explore the comments on her being drunk, as all these blogs feel the need to pick at her for mentioning the alcohol. Let’s be clear, alcohol surfaces a lot of built up energy or feelings that one may have. People are making it seem like she is making an excuse. That isn’t an excuse it’s the truth. She describes her sitting next to Tristan and how their feet touched. Which again is completely inappropriate. This is the only thing that raises a red flag for me. It seems like Jordyn may have had a connection with Tristan before this event. Not something that would cause cheating but a feeling that possibly lingered in the air when their in the room together. Something that neither one of them really acknowledged or possibly just ignored.

Jada Pinkett Smith says it many times that everyone has been in a situation like this or similar. I’m not saying that the Kardashians should forgive her. I’m just saying these kinds of things are more common than not. It doesn’t matter who you are. We just learn from them and move the hell on.

Also when someone tells their story it doesn’t always have to be that they are looking for attention. Sometimes people make mistakes and want to make it known that they made a mistake. It is possible someone can be genuine. Again I don’t know whether Jordyn Woods is lying or not but I won’t dismiss her apology just because people feel she wants attention. If that’s the case no one would come out and say anything they’ve done or been through because unfortunately the world we live in people love scandals that will bring them attention.

For the trollers…with all of the cases of people committing suicide because of bullying its also inappropriate to send someone messages stating things like “That’s why your father deserved to die” and “I hope you die.” This is disgusting and no one should ever speak to someone like that especially not because of an alleged affair. Let’s be frank the Kardashians don’t know half of you who are “defending” them. You aren’t getting your bills paid and you’re not going to become their best friends. You’re just fueling an issue that, when you go home at night, has nothing to do with your real life. Grow Up! These people are hurting and don’t need your petty and childish insults.

Kofi Siriboe’s short film “Jump” Identifies Mental Health

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Kofi Siriboe released his short film “Jump” yesterday and it has already been getting buzz. The film follows Ziggy, a African American male that is detached from reality. Ziggy continues to see a young girl that is telling him to follow her, but every time he finds her, no one is ACTUALLY there. He repeats the words, “I don’t wanna live, I don’t wanna die”, directly signifying his complex with living a life of depression and actually not wanting to ending the life he know (with friends) but doesn’t enjoy. His friend tries to reach out to him but he’s not interested in hanging out or talking. It ends with Ziggy on the bridge considering what to do next…

I’m proud of Kofi Siriboe for this wonderful film. Keep up the good work! OnPoint!

Check out the short film below:

Drake Bring Together The Degrassi Cast For “I’m Upset” Video

Rapper Drake dropped the music video for “I’m Upset” which displays the reunion of the Degrassi: The Next Generation cast. In the video they all meet up at their high school and party it up. Drake who played Jimmy Brooks on the Canadian TV Show from 2001 to 2009, reunites with 19 his cast members.

Here the list of cast in order of appearance in the video:

Shane Kippel, who played his onscreen best friend Gavin “Spinner” Mason

Lauren Collins played Paige Michalchuk, the queen bee at Degrassi. Before there was a Regina George, there was Paige Michalchuk.

Adamo Ruggiero and Stacey Farber played Marco Del Rossi and Ellie Nash, respectively, joining the cast in season two. Marco spends most of the series struggling to accept his sexuality and getting others around him to do the same, while Ellie deals with a home life in constant turmoil. The two strike up a friendship with Paige to form the best trio since Harry, Ron, and Hermione.

Jake Epstein played musician Craig Manning; he is the boy every girl in school wants, who has to battle some serious inner demons.

Christina Schmidt and Andrea Lewis played Terri MacGregor and Hazel Aden, respectively. Terri is incredibly insecure about her self-image and eventually gets in an abusive relationship. She leaves after the third season, following an assault by her ex-boyfriend. Hazel is the best friend of Paige, who struggles with hiding her Muslim faith from her friends because of facing harassment after 9/11. She eventually decides to live in her truth, as well as dating one Jimmy Brooks later on in the series.

Melissa McIntyre played Ashley Kerwin, another past love of Jimmy Brooks and the “perfect girl” who attracts all the guys. She is hated by quite a few of the Degrassi girls, but Ashley is too busy dealing with her whole drama to bother with all that. We will never forget when Jimmy Brooks has the audacity to call her a slut. She also has a tumultuous relationship with Craig that inspires the classic hit “Mr. Nice Guy.”

Linlyn Lue and Stefan Brogren played Laura Kwan and Archibald “Snake/Archie” Rupert Simpson, respectively. They are both teachers at Degrassi, Kwan for English and Archie for Media Immersions. Kwan is known for being strict AF, whereas Archie is a lot looser. Archie goes on to become the principal and has to tighten the reins a little more. Brogren actually portrayed Archie in the original Degrassi in the ’80s, thus making Archie an official alumnus of Degrassi Junior High and High School.

Marc Donato and Dalmar Abuzeid portrayed Derek Haig and Daniel “Danny” Van Zandt, respectively. They are basically everyone’s annoying little brothers.

A.J. Saudin played Connor DeLaurier, Archie’s godson who struggles with social situations as a result of his having Asperger’s syndrome. He ends up joining the football team and becoming valedictorian of the class of 2014.

Kevin Smith and Jason Mewes played Jay and Silent Bob Kevin Smith and Jason Mewes. The two come in the final three episodes of season four as exaggerated versions of themselves who are filming a fictional film at Degrassi.two come in the final three episodes of season four as exaggerated versions of themselves who are filming a fictional film at Degrassi.

Miriam McDonald and Cassie Steele played the unforgettable Emma Nelson and Manny Santos, respectively. They are an unstoppable duo who battle sexism, eating disorders, unplanned pregnancies, and terrible decisions in boyfriends together. They are the definition of BFFL.

Nina Dobrev and Sarah Barrable-Tishauer coming in during season six, Dobrev portrayed Mia Jones, a teenage mother who just wants to model. She eventually leaves to pursue a career in Paris and somehow gets waylaid by some vampire brothers in Virginia, USA. Barrable-Tishauer played Liberty Van Zandt, who never lets anything get in her way, even teenage pregnancy and losing her partner. She is and will always be a genius baddie.

Ephraim Ellis, who played Rick Murray the infamous schoolmate who shoots Jimmy and paralyzes him during season four.

Jake Goldsbie portrayed Toby Isaacs, stepbrother of Ashley Kerwin. He is also best friends with J.T. Yorke.

Paula Brancati portrayed Jane Vaughn, a transfer from Degrassi’s rival school Lakehurst Secondary School and aunt to Mia’s daughter, Isabella.

Below is the full video…Enjoy!!! 😊😊😊

Kofi Siriboe Brings Awareness To Mental Health in Black Communities

Actor Kofi Siriboe from film Girls Trip and TV Series Queen Sugar has created a documentary called What the Fuck Is Mental Health? tackling the unrecognized issues of mental illness in black communities. In the short documentary a group of young Black speak on their personal experience with mental health and how they have overcome.

Siriboe expressed to Huffington Post about being inspired to make a documentary dealing with mental health:

Making WTF Is Mental Health? Has been a part of the healing process for me, one I’m still exploring. It’s the combination piece to Jump, a short film I made after a mentor and a big brother figure died by suicide, just before I got the call that I’d then cast in Queen Sugar. I started working on this beautiful, emotional show and felt how liberating it was to channel my fears into art. As I began to mold Jump, I realize the true conversation I was craving centered on young black people who are figuring out this mental health thing, too.

He also explains that he wants Black people to express themselves:

Everybody doesn’t have that language and doesn’t understand that there is a community or world out there of people who are dealing with similar things, so I really want to explore what it is and what it means to us. A lot of our project is just asking questions, and I think with the questions they’re able to give us answers and able to define these definitions for ourselves rather than what we are accustomed to being told.

It is no secret that Black people have a hard time expressing themselves. It is however difficult for many people to understand WHY Black people have such a hard time expressing themselves. This documentary is just the beginning of a well needed discussion on mental health in black communities.

The NFL has a NEW Policy About Standing For The Anthem (BAD IDEA)

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After an eye-opening 2017 season, which caused NFL attendance and TV rating dropped as Trump and other critic’s scrutinized on-field protest by many of the league players. NFL commissioner Roger Goodall announced this week that the league has a new policy, “this season, all league and team personnel shall stand and show respect for the flag and the anthem. Personnel who choose not to stand for the anthem may stay in the locker room until after the anthem has been performed”.

When Trump was asked about the new policy he says, “I think the people pushed it forward. This was not me. I brought it out. I think the people pushed it forward. This country’s very smart. We have very smart people,” the president said. “And, you know, that’s something ideally could have been taken care of when it first started. It would have been a lot easier. But if they did that, they’re doing the right thing.”

The new policy stem from all of the opinion’s after former San Francisco 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick, shocked the world when he decided to Neil for the national anthem before a preseason game and then before regular-season games throughout the 2016 season.

The protest let some to boycott watching NFL games last season and it appeared to have played a part in NFL’s ratings. Television viewership fell 9.7% across all networks last season, according to Nielsen data. An average NFL game was watch by 1.6 million fewer people compared to last year, declining overall from 16.5 million $14.9 million, ESPN reported.

Although their ratings have dropped, the NFL still signed a $1.5 billion deal with Verizon to stream games across the wireless carriers platform, according to Recode. The NFL also reached a five-year, $3 billion to broadcast Thursday night Football on Fox sports, according to Reuters.

The problem with this entire policy is that it effects the 70 percent of football players that are African American feeling the injustice in this country. Colin Kaepernick and other players have said they are not protesting the anthem or the military; they are using the anthem to bring attention to racial injustice and the issue of police abuse of black and brown Americans. Below is the video of Sterling Brown being arrested for a parking violation brings up Kaepernick’s point.

NEW VIDEO: Migos ft. Drake – Walk It Talk It 

Today rap trio Migos released the visual for a “Walk it Talk It” featuring the rapper Drake from the Culture II album. The video is directed by Daps and Quavo and produced by Sarah Lacombe.
The first scene opens up on the set of the soul train called ‘culture ride’ with actor,singer and songwriter Jamie Foxx introducing Migos. Everyone is dressed in 70’s attire. They were lined up, like the temptations, in sink with each other killing us with the moves…lol Meanwhile the audience is playing games and starting a soul train line. 

I the video. I like how they got their lyrics to match with not only the setting but their moves. It’s SUPER cute!!! OnPoint!!! 💋